Is your relationship a tad “ho-hum”?
Do you sometimes forget to say hello to your partner when you get home in the evening? Do you take time to share the details of your day? Do you cuddle up at night?
It’s easy for couples to let the ‘day-to-day’ overwhelm the romance. This is to be somewhat expected. After the initial ‘honey-moon’ period, those intense feelings of romantic energy and sexual longing tend to dissipate. Once you start living together, or having children together, the daily responsibilities and stresses of life tend to take precedence in most relationships.
But couples need to make time for connection or they risk drifting apart and living in a relationship that ends up feeling, frankly, a tad ‘ho-hum’. And who wants that?
So what can you and your partner do to rekindle your connectivity and revive your relationship? Here are some practical tips:
• Remember the basics of any relationship – say ‘good morning’ when you wake up and take a moment to acknowledge your partner, warmly, when you get home in the evening.
• Put the kettle on at the end of your day and take 10 minutes to share a tea and the events or emotions of your day.
• Sit next to each other when you are relaxing in front of the tv – make sure you share a blanket if it’s cold.
• Do something little but thoughtful for your partner – make him/her a cuppa, bring home a chocolate treat, set the table without being asked.
• Take a walk in a park, along the beach or just around the block. Try holding hands while you walk.
• Leave messages for your partner throughout the day that remind them that you are thinking of them. These could be left around the house, hidden in a briefcase, or sent by text or email, and could be as simple as “how is your day going” or “you’re cute”.
• Try a new activity together – it could be as simple as baking a cake or as risqué as going sky-diving.
• Book a weekend away or plan a romantic dinner at home.
Probably all of these ideas sound great and sound like things you either used to do or wished you did more often. So the main tip then, is this: just do them. Remember to pause from your daily life to say thanks to your partner for sharing it. We’re pretty sure that your relationship will feel move loving, more romantic and less ‘ho-hum’ as a result.